Hi Neighbor!
Decision making is daunting. In the past, I have struggled in my decision-making skills because I always feared regretting my final decision, or worse yet, making the wrong decision. There is no reversing it once it’s decided, right?
But as I matured (ahem, grew older), I cleansed myself of the guilt and worry. Once I made a decision, I never looked back, passing along this mantra to my children because decision-making is so darn difficult. No need for the extra burden in life.
Now the older, wiser version of myself can make big decisions like a boss. Time to move? Done. Sell your home and buy a new home? Check. Furnishing, establishing, and maintaining a new home while closing out on the old homestead? No problem. I don’t need to see things more than once, labor over what furniture I want to take with me, fret over furnishing my new abode, or spend too much time dawdling over a settlement date.
I don’t want too many choices, I know what I like, and I decide what works best for me. So, keep it moving, keep it moving.
Stop right there. Although I have conquered the ability to make these big decisions, it’s the little ones, the miniscule issues that keep me tossing and turning at night. For instance, I labored over what mattress to purchase for my new home, possibly so I would toss and turn less. Oh, the irony.
One could argue that this is also a big decision. I mean, I am going to sleep on it for the foreseeable future, yet I got hung up on this conundrum for several weeks. My hesitation was so extreme, I was afraid I wouldn’t have the mattress in time for the first night in my new home. Turns out, a mattress delivered in a box that inflates as you unpack it is perfect for a good night’s sleep. Who knew?
I also got stuck on selecting a painter. I interviewed the prerequisite three companies only to labor over who to select. My gut instinct was the way to go, and it worked out well in the end, but I was driving everyone crazy with my indecisiveness. My kids finally inquired, ever so politely, if I was even asking their opinion or just ranting about my inability to decide.
Experts agree that decision-making is difficult, providing obvious reasons for the struggle such as: not enough information, too much information, too many choices (HA!), questioning your decision, and feeling indecisive, to name a few. Overstating the Obvious is what I call this list.
Admittedly, my mind gets cloudy and overwhelmed when presented with too many options, so I do my best to streamline and keep moving forward. Maybe yours does too. What I have “decided” is, less clutter in my brain helps for smoother decision-making. And yes, neighbor, you can reverse your decision. So don’t fret too much.
Good luck!
Jackie