Hi Neighbor!
I like to talk things out when somethings weighing on my mind and find itās almost always helpful. Itās not that Iām looking for feedback although that would be okay. I talk so I can better visualize whatās become confusing while itās stuck in my head. Itās similar to laying out the pieces of a new puzzle, then piecing it together and seeing the resolution clearly revealed.
My husband is my go-to excellent listener. Thankfully he excels at this because Iām the talker in this couple. Anyway, he hears me lay out my puzzle pieces verbally when Iām confused. From the start, I feel relieved that the issue formerly rolling around in my head is now out on the table. Iām always grateful that he hears me. His predictable response to my saying, āThanks for listeningā is always to look straight at me and ask, āWhat did you say?ā l consistently, spontaneously laugh at his joke like itās the first time heās ever said it, no matter how often he has.
Laughing has a way of balancing everything. It puts most issues in perspective. Thereās a whole world out there that I sometimes forget when my focus is microcosmic or more accurately, singularly focused on my own stuff.
During these winter months when the house walls frame my existence and when fewer people pass through our doors, I got stuck in my mind. Laughing helps to re-frame issues and provides a doorway leading out of my head and back into the wider world.
Iām grateful to have someone who listens and also provides a reminder to laugh. Now that Iāve surfaced from the pothole of perpetual thinking, Iām paying closer attention to listening to my husband and looking for an opportunity to make him laugh too.
Regaining perspective,
Jane
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