Over the last month my husband and I moved my youngest into his freshman dorm and my daughter into an apartment to begin her junior year. They are both now about 10 hours from home. After moving my daughter I took a few days to myself to visit family in Florida so as not to face the inevitable… my “empty” home.
My husband picked me up from the airport and gently asked “So…how are you doing?”
Days before when we dropped off my son I was a COMPLETE & TOTAL wreck. I cried for the first 4 hours of our drive home and wasn’t “right” for days. So my poor hubby didn’t know what state I would be in when I landed.
Both my kids were doing just fine so I was actually feeling pretty good. The saying, “A mother is only as happy as her least happy child” is so very true.
I walked in the door of our house, put my bags away and about 30 minutes later I was frantically cleaning out drawers in my kitchen. My husband looked at me and asked “Um…what are you doing?” to which I replied “Cleaning!” For the next two days I cleaned out every drawer, cabinet and closet on our first two floors.
A few days later we met friends for dinner, a couple that had taken their only child to college a few days earlier. I was telling my friend about my manic cleaning obsession. She was doing the same thing! Apparently it’s called Reverse Nesting. When I was pregnant I was nesting obsessed – making sure everything was in place and in order. Now I have an overwhelming urge to clean, repaint, redo, and redecorate EVERYTHING in my house. I think it’s my way of trying to control what I can during an emotional time. Outer order, inner peace.
So it’s been almost two weeks and I’m doing better than I had thought. My husband and I have fun together – when we do anything and when we do nothing. We can do whatever we want whenever we want. For the last 20 years it’s been about our kids and now it’s all about us!
I’m excited to do all the things I’ve been wanting to do but didn’t have the time. So our nest isn’t feeling quite so empty, it’s just feeling a little less crowded.
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FREE TIME, ME TIME!
250 S Broad Street, Philadelphia
Moms, best friends, and funny ladies Kristin Hensley and Jen Smedley are the creators of the viral web-series #IMOMSOHARD, where they discuss the good, the bad, and the funny about motherhood – with the help of a bottle of red wine!
Fabulous Fashion: From Dior’s New Look to Now
October 16th through March 3rd
Philadelphia Museum of Art
Experience the drama and glamour of some of the most creative feminine fashions ever designed, from romantic ball gowns to audacious contemporary ensembles, and everything in between.
Ira Glass: Seven Things I’ve Learned
250 S Broad St, Philadelphia
This American Life personality shares lessons from his life and career in storytelling.
September 28th – 29th
Ten highly-skilled acrobats, a bare stage and a stirring journey of what it means to be human.
Thursday, November 8th
Tickets go on sale September 15th
Uptown Performing Arts Center
226 North High Street, West Chester
A locally organized lineup of innovative and influential speakers with ideas that are changing the future and making a positive impact on the local communities and beyond.
Mitch Albom: Free Library Author Event
Monday, October 22th
Parkway Central Library
The Next Person You Meet in Heaven: The Sequel to The Five People You Meet in Heaven
Jill Soloway: Free Library Author Event
Emmy and Golden Globe-winning creator of the Amazon series Transparent
She Wants It: Desire, Power, and Toppling the Patriarchy
Wed, October 17th
Parkway Central Library
An Evening with Adam Grant
Thursday, October 4th
Goodhart Hall at Bryn Mawr College
150 N. Merion Avenue, Bryn Mawr
Regardless of who you are, what you do professionally or where you find yourself along life’s journey, Adam Grant’s insightful and uplifting message will inspire and energize.
Community Arts Center’s Fine Arts & Crafts Festival
Park Ave., Swarthmore
Browse, stroll, shop, eat and CELEBRATE THE ARTS!